As previously talked about in posts prior to this one, I have some very strong opinions of tabloid media and their attitudes towards celebrities, their invasions of privacy and heartless lack of empathy. I was extremely angry when I woke up this morning to see various pop culture news blogs reporting about the disgustingly malicious interview with Cara Delevingne on Good Day Sacramento. She was labelled as rude and uninterested by some people, but I wasn't surprised to see most people arguing in her favor, and rightly so.
The questions asked were quite pointless in my opinion. Cara, who plays Margo in the new movie adaptation of the John Green best seller, Paper Towns, of course would have read the book in preparation and would have felt some connection with her character otherwise she wouldn't have agreed to play her. As part of the audience to this interview, it was apparent to me that Cara's sarcasm was simply an attempt to lighten the mood that was awkward from the start after the female presenter referred to her as Clara.
The interviewers all seemed pretty biased against Cara from the beginning and their comments were just plain rude! There were so many unnecessary comments made, even questioning her ability to handle her schedule and again showing a lack of empathy when questioning whether she can keep focused because of her busy schedule. Of course that doesn't make it easier, she's exhausted. Despite the interviewers hinting at how exhausted she must be, they further accused her of not being excited for the movie. Not only was this extremely unprofessional, but they coerced Cara further into this hole when she tried to defend herself by explaining the evening prior to the interview was the premiere of the movie.
The ending of this attack was the most shocking. After Cara defended herself by bringing the premiere to light, the interviewers then stated they would leave her to it and recommended she have some red bull. They then shut Cara's mic down without letting her say goodbye or even stick up for herself.
"Well that's a bit too far" you hear Cara say just before her image is removed. Despite her previous warning also: "Don't be mean," the interviewers on the show continued to belittle Cara with derogatory comments and by calling her out simply for her attempts to answer their banal questions in a somehow interesting way.
These interviewers showed such a lack of respect to Cara, especially when they further bullied her after her camera was shut off. With no way of defending herself, these interviewers abused Cara about the amount of money she earns and her attitude. They seemed to show no empathy as to how exhausted she must have been and they shed no light on the fact that their comments were disrespectful and that they even got her name incorrect at the beginning of the show which would, of course, make her feel uncomfortable.
My message to Good Day Sacramento: If you have such a burning desire to have better answers for your questions, to the extent that you would bully a guest on your show, perhaps you should ask better questions.
Wednesday 29 July 2015
Tuesday 14 July 2015
Chloe's 4 Steps To Getting Over Someone
I am in no way an expert as to how love works or how to deal with feelings, in fact, I'm pretty awful at it all. Having had a lot of time to think over my feelings has helped me come up with a plan as to how I'm going to give myself the best future. Whilst missing, hating, craving, misunderstanding and judging the person I used to love all at once over the past few days and weeks I have tried so many different ways of making the best of the situation, every time ending in me getting hurt. Again. So here are some things I have done/am doing to focus on giving myself, and only myself, the best chance.
1. Cut All Contact.
I think we find it comforting to believe that we could somehow salvage a friendship from the cursed shipwreck that remains of a destroyed relationship; however, sometimes/most times, it's impossible. It's impossible if the other person can't be bothered to put the effort in. It's impossible if you still have questions unanswered and if you're still angry over what they've done to you. It's impossible if you still have loving feelings for that person and they're moving on because you won't be able to shake off those feelings if they're still tormenting you. It's impossible if it's just going to reemerge old memories and old feelings.
You have to admit to yourself that the person that hurt you isn't the same individual as the person who loved you. That way, you can remember the good things: the smiles, the kisses, the safety and security etc. without associating those memories with the pain. The only way to stop them from merging together and destroying your faith is to cut them off. Block them on social media. Delete the old text messages and stop torturing yourself with memories of a person that doesn't exist in that way anymore. Delete their number too so that you have no way of getting into contact. Even if it's temporary, you have to cut contact until you no longer look at them and feel that turmoil of emotion.
2. Express The Negative Feelings.
Every person has a talent, some way of expressing themselves. You can get rid of these negative feelings: the anger, the betrayal, the rejection through whatever that is rather than collapsing on the bathroom floor in a malice ball of frustration and intense melancholy. I write songs. Other people paint pictures or write in journals etc. Whatever you want to do just get the thoughts out of your head. Talk so somebody about them, if you are unsure of what else to do. Just get them out of your head so that you can make sense of them and figure out what is real and what your sadness has created to torture you with.
3. Buy Some New Underwear.
This one may be more effective for girls but guys can do this too. Buy yourself something really sexy. A thong, preferably lace or anything along those lines. No, I'm not going insane. Get yourself something they haven't seen or touched. Something you feel good wearing that isn't tainted with the memory of them. Allow yourself to feel reawakened. Realise that feeling good is for yourself, nobody else. Get yourself something that makes you feel clean.
4. Give Yourself Some Time.
Don't rush things. A lot of people like to get over one person by rushing into a relationship with the next thing that looks their way. That's fine. However, it's not always the best way. Relationships can fix old wounds but sometimes, if you get it wrong, it just makes those wounds bigger. Rushing into new relationships when you're not ready can be even more damaging so you need to give yourself a few months or even longer just to take a breather and let your scars heal. That way you can't let the damage of the previous relationship spread into the new one. Most likely, you'll find it hard to trust people, you'll get paranoid and rushing into a new relationship can leave you afraid of being alone. I don't need to tell you that none of those things are good things so just take some time out. Of course, you'll miss how it feels to be loved but if you get into a new relationship when you're ready it will be so much better. There's a big difference between wanting to be loved and needing to be loved.
Just remember that you're worthy of a full life and that includes having someone that adores you and would never ever hurt you. Getting over somebody takes longer, but I think it's much better than giving someone a second chance to destroy what you have because they may very nearly destroy you in the process.
1. Cut All Contact.
I think we find it comforting to believe that we could somehow salvage a friendship from the cursed shipwreck that remains of a destroyed relationship; however, sometimes/most times, it's impossible. It's impossible if the other person can't be bothered to put the effort in. It's impossible if you still have questions unanswered and if you're still angry over what they've done to you. It's impossible if you still have loving feelings for that person and they're moving on because you won't be able to shake off those feelings if they're still tormenting you. It's impossible if it's just going to reemerge old memories and old feelings.
You have to admit to yourself that the person that hurt you isn't the same individual as the person who loved you. That way, you can remember the good things: the smiles, the kisses, the safety and security etc. without associating those memories with the pain. The only way to stop them from merging together and destroying your faith is to cut them off. Block them on social media. Delete the old text messages and stop torturing yourself with memories of a person that doesn't exist in that way anymore. Delete their number too so that you have no way of getting into contact. Even if it's temporary, you have to cut contact until you no longer look at them and feel that turmoil of emotion.
2. Express The Negative Feelings.
Every person has a talent, some way of expressing themselves. You can get rid of these negative feelings: the anger, the betrayal, the rejection through whatever that is rather than collapsing on the bathroom floor in a malice ball of frustration and intense melancholy. I write songs. Other people paint pictures or write in journals etc. Whatever you want to do just get the thoughts out of your head. Talk so somebody about them, if you are unsure of what else to do. Just get them out of your head so that you can make sense of them and figure out what is real and what your sadness has created to torture you with.
3. Buy Some New Underwear.
This one may be more effective for girls but guys can do this too. Buy yourself something really sexy. A thong, preferably lace or anything along those lines. No, I'm not going insane. Get yourself something they haven't seen or touched. Something you feel good wearing that isn't tainted with the memory of them. Allow yourself to feel reawakened. Realise that feeling good is for yourself, nobody else. Get yourself something that makes you feel clean.
4. Give Yourself Some Time.
Don't rush things. A lot of people like to get over one person by rushing into a relationship with the next thing that looks their way. That's fine. However, it's not always the best way. Relationships can fix old wounds but sometimes, if you get it wrong, it just makes those wounds bigger. Rushing into new relationships when you're not ready can be even more damaging so you need to give yourself a few months or even longer just to take a breather and let your scars heal. That way you can't let the damage of the previous relationship spread into the new one. Most likely, you'll find it hard to trust people, you'll get paranoid and rushing into a new relationship can leave you afraid of being alone. I don't need to tell you that none of those things are good things so just take some time out. Of course, you'll miss how it feels to be loved but if you get into a new relationship when you're ready it will be so much better. There's a big difference between wanting to be loved and needing to be loved.
Just remember that you're worthy of a full life and that includes having someone that adores you and would never ever hurt you. Getting over somebody takes longer, but I think it's much better than giving someone a second chance to destroy what you have because they may very nearly destroy you in the process.
Wednesday 8 July 2015
June Favourites
I feel as though I haven't blogged for absolutely ages. I also feel like my recent posts have been very heavy so I've taken some time out to just take a breath for a second. (Or a few weeks.) There's so much going on in my life at the moment that I cannot comfortably blog about which I'm sure you've gathered from my posts prior to this one so I have tried to plan a few blog posts that aren't as thoughtful because I simply have too much to think about!
I haven't done a favourites since February and so there are lots of products I want to talk about so lets get right to it.
The first item I have been loving has been talked about a lot by beauty gurus and bloggers/vloggers since it came out and that is the Maybelline Lash Sensational Mascara. YouTubers such as Zoella and VelvetGhost have praised this product and I have to agree with their comments. It's one of the best 'drugstore' mascaras I have ever used. I struggle with my eyelashes a lot because they just don't like to curl. This mascara not only makes them seem longer and fuller but it just gives so much more shape and volume. I actually would go so far as to say I prefer this mascara to my Urban Decay one which was much more expensive. I have recommended this little product to so many people and have heard nothing but good comments so do try it for yourself!
The next product I have adored is a high end product so a little bit more pricey and it is the Too Faced Chocolate Bar eye shadow Pallet. I paid around the £37 mark for this, I don't remember exactly. All I can tell you is it is worth every single penny. The colours are beautiful and so nicely pigmented. They compliment each other so well; any combination I have tried has worked beautifully! Blending really well, the product is easy to use and is really long lasting. What more could you ask for in a pallet? Don't be put off by the price.
I have photographed the 2 colours I use the most as an all over lid colour and those are: Marzipan and Creme Brulee. I use the other colours for blending and just adding tone.
Clearly the whole pallet is themed around chocolate as you can see by the packaging and names of the products. I have talked about the scent of the product previously in a haul post but if you haven't seen that post: the pallet smells authentically of chocolate. It's amazing. I have also been using the Champagne Truffle shade in conjunction with my eyebrow powder to highlight the brow bone when shading my eyebrows. The colours are stunning and really go above and beyond any expectations of eye shadows.
I have to say, I used to hate the idea of putting makeup on my eyebrows. I've seen such crimes to makeup walking around with eyebrows that take up their whole forehead that I saw eyebrow shading as very fake and hard to do well. This product is so easy to use it makes me wonder how some people can go so wrong with eyebrow shading. It comes with a dark powder for the brows and a highlighter. I must confess that I haven't used the highlighter at all because it's a very orangey shade and I much prefer using lighter eye shadows to highlight the brow bone with.
Moving away from makeup over to skin care, here is a product that has been a favourite of mine for years. It's the Dove Summer Glow moisturizer. I'm unsure as to whether I've talked about this product on my blog before or not but I adore it. It's totally fool proof and I've been using it since I was about 13. It works all over the body. It makes your skin look and feel so healthy and doesn't give you that horrid orange tone that fake tans often do. One thing I have been loving about this product recently is how helpful it's been to me when I've been dealing with sunburn. I got very sunburned a week before my prom and this product aided me to coercing that burn into a tan much swifter than if I had left it for time to deal with. I just absolutely love the results you get from this product!
Another skin care product I've been loving is this Coco Body Butter from Boots. It isn't a brand product but it works wonders. It's especially good to use on legs after shaving. I've been loving it recently for similar reasons for the Dove Summer Glow - It works miracles on sunburn. My skin tends to peel when it gets burnt and this product has helped sooth it much quicker leaving me peel free! It smells incredible and is affordable so give it a try if you have similar problems.
My final favourite is an entertainment favourite, my favourite TV show of all time: Nashville. I recently re watched all of the first 2 seasons for the 3rd time so that i'm ready for the 3rd season that should come out sometime very soon. I was unaware that it airs in the UK so I've missed the first half of season 3 and cannot find it anywhere to catch up which means I'm stuck waiting for the DVD; however, I'm excited and it's such a great show so if you haven't watched it you should. If you love music, you'll love Nashville.
I haven't done a favourites since February and so there are lots of products I want to talk about so lets get right to it.
The first item I have been loving has been talked about a lot by beauty gurus and bloggers/vloggers since it came out and that is the Maybelline Lash Sensational Mascara. YouTubers such as Zoella and VelvetGhost have praised this product and I have to agree with their comments. It's one of the best 'drugstore' mascaras I have ever used. I struggle with my eyelashes a lot because they just don't like to curl. This mascara not only makes them seem longer and fuller but it just gives so much more shape and volume. I actually would go so far as to say I prefer this mascara to my Urban Decay one which was much more expensive. I have recommended this little product to so many people and have heard nothing but good comments so do try it for yourself! 
The next product I have adored is a high end product so a little bit more pricey and it is the Too Faced Chocolate Bar eye shadow Pallet. I paid around the £37 mark for this, I don't remember exactly. All I can tell you is it is worth every single penny. The colours are beautiful and so nicely pigmented. They compliment each other so well; any combination I have tried has worked beautifully! Blending really well, the product is easy to use and is really long lasting. What more could you ask for in a pallet? Don't be put off by the price. I have photographed the 2 colours I use the most as an all over lid colour and those are: Marzipan and Creme Brulee. I use the other colours for blending and just adding tone.
Clearly the whole pallet is themed around chocolate as you can see by the packaging and names of the products. I have talked about the scent of the product previously in a haul post but if you haven't seen that post: the pallet smells authentically of chocolate. It's amazing. I have also been using the Champagne Truffle shade in conjunction with my eyebrow powder to highlight the brow bone when shading my eyebrows. The colours are stunning and really go above and beyond any expectations of eye shadows.
To follow on from that, it seems fitting to go on and talk to you about my new found love of eyebrow shading. This is a product that my mum gave to me after not really bothering with it much. It's by Beautiful Brows.
I have to say, I used to hate the idea of putting makeup on my eyebrows. I've seen such crimes to makeup walking around with eyebrows that take up their whole forehead that I saw eyebrow shading as very fake and hard to do well. This product is so easy to use it makes me wonder how some people can go so wrong with eyebrow shading. It comes with a dark powder for the brows and a highlighter. I must confess that I haven't used the highlighter at all because it's a very orangey shade and I much prefer using lighter eye shadows to highlight the brow bone with.
The brush that comes with the pallet is a very tightly bristled brush that can easily cover the brow without the powder going everywhere which is really effective in getting a natural look. You don't need to use much of the powder either; a light tap with the brush on the powder is enough to fill the whole brow without giving you a fake look. Thus, the product is very efficient because you don't need to use much of it and it's very long lasting! It's revolutionized my makeup routine.
Moving away from makeup over to skin care, here is a product that has been a favourite of mine for years. It's the Dove Summer Glow moisturizer. I'm unsure as to whether I've talked about this product on my blog before or not but I adore it. It's totally fool proof and I've been using it since I was about 13. It works all over the body. It makes your skin look and feel so healthy and doesn't give you that horrid orange tone that fake tans often do. One thing I have been loving about this product recently is how helpful it's been to me when I've been dealing with sunburn. I got very sunburned a week before my prom and this product aided me to coercing that burn into a tan much swifter than if I had left it for time to deal with. I just absolutely love the results you get from this product! 
Another skin care product I've been loving is this Coco Body Butter from Boots. It isn't a brand product but it works wonders. It's especially good to use on legs after shaving. I've been loving it recently for similar reasons for the Dove Summer Glow - It works miracles on sunburn. My skin tends to peel when it gets burnt and this product has helped sooth it much quicker leaving me peel free! It smells incredible and is affordable so give it a try if you have similar problems. 
My final favourite is an entertainment favourite, my favourite TV show of all time: Nashville. I recently re watched all of the first 2 seasons for the 3rd time so that i'm ready for the 3rd season that should come out sometime very soon. I was unaware that it airs in the UK so I've missed the first half of season 3 and cannot find it anywhere to catch up which means I'm stuck waiting for the DVD; however, I'm excited and it's such a great show so if you haven't watched it you should. If you love music, you'll love Nashville.
Thanks for reading. Keep your eyes open for some cool posts coming your way soon!
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